Tuesday, November 30, 2010

"Goin' to the chapel and we're gonna get married."

So I've been struggling with myself about whether or not I wanted to blog about this.

I've sat down at my computer several times over the past few weeks, typed out a few beginning lines, only to rethink and abandon the whole idea all together.

However, I do feel a few things need to be officially stated - after all, the news was outed to most of our friends via Facebook by accident (completely NOT how we wanted everyone to find out) and then was further spread by the immaturity of an individual who obviously lacks the ability to go directly to the source of the matter for answers - who instead opted to text all of Alan's friends to try to get the 411, thus spreading our personal business all over the city of Nashville. - Classy, I know, but that's beside the point.

So here it is:

Alan and I ARE, in fact, in the early stages of planning our wedding.

And for all you naturally pessimistic people out there - NO, I am NOT pregnant - not that it would be any of your business if I were anyhow.

Yes, we haven't been dating very long. However, we both feel that God placed us in each others lives at the right time. Had He done so before then, neither of us would have been ready.

Alan hasn't officially proposed in the typical, cliche fashion, and that's part of the reason we didn't want to go public just yet. He stated that he wanted to wait to tell everyone until he could put a ring on my finger. However, he has formally asked me to be his wife and I've graciously accepted.

Originally, we were planning for October 8, 2011. However, the more we discussed plans and as family and friends started finding out, we started to consider bumping the day up. - Especially since just about everyone we've told, including his parents, have asked us one of the two following questions: 1. "Why are you waiting so long?" or 2. "Are you even going to be able to wait that long?"

So we've officially settled on April 9th, 2011 for the big day.

Here's what I do know:

We seriously considered going to the courthouse or hopping a flight to Vegas, however, we both agreed that we want our family and friends to be a part of the celebration... especially Emily. Alan stressed how he felt it to be so important that Emily be an active part in the ceremony, because, after all, he's not just marrying me, he's ultimately marrying her too. - Those were HIS words, not mine. - So, so sweet.

That, and he also wants me to feel like a Princess for a day... my first wedding wasn't a fairytale by any means. Emily was not even a month old. I was in the midst of postpartum depression. And to top it all off, I had come down with a wicked mastitis the very morning we went down to the Wilson County courthouse to get married. - Hardly picturesque.

So, I am going to have my hair and makeup done by a professional and I will be donning a white, uber-girlie wedding gown. (Preferably one that doesn't cost a fortune.) ;) - Ahh, if only Ross sold wedding gowns, right, Karla??? ;)

It's going to be a pretty low-key ceremony... Still deciding on where. Definitely outdoors though. 100 guests at the most.

Emmy will be walking me down the aisle and "giving me away" - though she stated she's only allowing Alan to "borrow" me for the day. For this exchange, Alan and I have to provide Emily a "dowry" of a new kitten. - But only because Alan has promised to take care of the litter box. ;)

Two - Maybe Three Bridesmaids - Karla, Sandy and Teri (if they all accept).

And a corral of flower girls. (Two being Alan's nieces and the other his good friend's little girl.)

Still looking for an officiant to perform the actual ceremony but Alan and I will be writing our own wedding vows.

As for the reception, it will be very low-key and minimal... NO ALCOHOL... Mostly light refreshments, hors d'oeuvres and of course, wedding cake.

Maybe a dj, maybe not... If it's up to Alan, definitely not. He refuses to dance like a dork with me. He doesn't quite understand just how uber-cool my dance moves are. ;)

And that's all I've got for now.

I'm not going to lie, I am a bit overwhelmed by all the good things happening in my life right now. God has definitely been showering me with blessings left and right. It's been a wonderful, exciting whirlwind.

My freelance business is keeping me CRAZY busy... so much so, that I don't even know what to do with myself most days.

I've been afforded an AMAZING opportunity to use my Aesthetics training by my wonderful-friend-uber-amazing-business-associate-part-time boss, Lynette, over at The Wax Pot Studio.

I have been continually blessed by my wonderful extension of family and friends here in Nashville that keep me grounded and focused on what's important; who love me in spite of my many, many flaws (especially the few of you that had to find all of this out by FB gossip a few weeks ago and thoroughly reamed my butt for not telling you such HUGE news personally - you guys know who you are!)

- And to top it all off, I've met THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!

It's been a GREAT year!! Didn't I say 2010 was so going to be MY year!?!? - Though, I have a sneaking suspicion that 2011 will be even better!